Know When It's Time To Let Go!
Know When It’s time To Let Go!
- Gil Bryan
Look, you’re going to have to face a very important fact in life and that is you CANNOT make someone love you. And know matter how great of a person you are and no matter how willing you are to prove your love to someone, it just won’t happen.
For women, this is especially important because you are like incubators. In fact, the biblical term for woman comes from the combination of two words; Wombed and Man. Which means that even though you were created like a man, you have a special component called the womb that incubates things.
The womb is unique because it takes whatever it is given and incubates (matures, develops) it, multiplies it, and returns it to the giver.
Case in point, if you give a woman a sperm, she takes it, incubates it, and gives it back in the form of a baby.
Because of this uniqueness that God has put inside you, many times you will try to hold on to and try to develop relationships that have no life in them.
Here are four things that will help you get the most out of your relationship without losing your mind:
1. Learn how to love yourself
You can only love someone to the degree that you love yourself. Period.
If you try to hold on to a relationship to the point of allowing people to take you for granted then you are not helping the relationship. Instead you are hurting it. Plus, you are giving the other person permission to use and abuse you.
And please don’t use the excuse that you (or rather someone you know) hold on to a dead-end relationship because you are trying to be nice to the other person. Nice is taking care of you first!
2. Practice saying, “No”
We are constantly bombarded with the idea that saying “No” to people is being rude. But who cares? Which is better? To be nice and say “yes” when you really didn’t mean it or to be upfront and say, “NO!”?
You will reduce a lot of stress and build your self-esteem up just by getting in the habit of saying, “No!”
In fact, you should practice saying, “No!” How? The next time one of those annoying telemarketers calls you during dinner time, don’t look at the caller I.D. and let it go to voicemail. Instead, pick up the phone and nicely and politely tell the sales rep “NO!!”
3. Stop trying to convince someone that you’re a ‘good catch’
You got all the goods. You look great! You’re in tune with yourself spiritually, mentally, physically and emotionally. You have a great personality. You have tremendous sex appeal. You make a lot of money. But who the heck are you trying to convince?
When you meet someone you should never try and prove to them that you are such a great catch.
Simply BE!
Then allow people them the opportunity to see your great qualities. But, if for some reason they don’t see it, don’t waste your time trying to make them see it.
Believe me; people always know when greatness has come in their life, especially when it’s gone.
4. Keep moving
How long are you going to stay in a stale, dried up, never going anywhere relationship?
What the heck are you afraid of? Being alone? Being by yourself?
Remember, you came into this world alone and you are going to leave this world alone. But why spend your good years being the whole of a half relationship?
What I mean is, why be in a relationship where you’re both the man and the woman? You have someone else there but all they are doing is taking up space.
Either kick them out or you ‘get to stepping’. Either way, do whatever it takes to set yourself Free.
- Gil Bryan
Look, you’re going to have to face a very important fact in life and that is you CANNOT make someone love you. And know matter how great of a person you are and no matter how willing you are to prove your love to someone, it just won’t happen.
For women, this is especially important because you are like incubators. In fact, the biblical term for woman comes from the combination of two words; Wombed and Man. Which means that even though you were created like a man, you have a special component called the womb that incubates things.
The womb is unique because it takes whatever it is given and incubates (matures, develops) it, multiplies it, and returns it to the giver.
Case in point, if you give a woman a sperm, she takes it, incubates it, and gives it back in the form of a baby.
Because of this uniqueness that God has put inside you, many times you will try to hold on to and try to develop relationships that have no life in them.
Here are four things that will help you get the most out of your relationship without losing your mind:
1. Learn how to love yourself
You can only love someone to the degree that you love yourself. Period.
If you try to hold on to a relationship to the point of allowing people to take you for granted then you are not helping the relationship. Instead you are hurting it. Plus, you are giving the other person permission to use and abuse you.
And please don’t use the excuse that you (or rather someone you know) hold on to a dead-end relationship because you are trying to be nice to the other person. Nice is taking care of you first!
2. Practice saying, “No”
We are constantly bombarded with the idea that saying “No” to people is being rude. But who cares? Which is better? To be nice and say “yes” when you really didn’t mean it or to be upfront and say, “NO!”?
You will reduce a lot of stress and build your self-esteem up just by getting in the habit of saying, “No!”
In fact, you should practice saying, “No!” How? The next time one of those annoying telemarketers calls you during dinner time, don’t look at the caller I.D. and let it go to voicemail. Instead, pick up the phone and nicely and politely tell the sales rep “NO!!”
3. Stop trying to convince someone that you’re a ‘good catch’
You got all the goods. You look great! You’re in tune with yourself spiritually, mentally, physically and emotionally. You have a great personality. You have tremendous sex appeal. You make a lot of money. But who the heck are you trying to convince?
When you meet someone you should never try and prove to them that you are such a great catch.
Simply BE!
Then allow people them the opportunity to see your great qualities. But, if for some reason they don’t see it, don’t waste your time trying to make them see it.
Believe me; people always know when greatness has come in their life, especially when it’s gone.
4. Keep moving
How long are you going to stay in a stale, dried up, never going anywhere relationship?
What the heck are you afraid of? Being alone? Being by yourself?
Remember, you came into this world alone and you are going to leave this world alone. But why spend your good years being the whole of a half relationship?
What I mean is, why be in a relationship where you’re both the man and the woman? You have someone else there but all they are doing is taking up space.
Either kick them out or you ‘get to stepping’. Either way, do whatever it takes to set yourself Free.
© 2006 Gil Bryan
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